This post is about something we often forget to do: checking in. We get so caught up in the day-to-day happenings of our life, that we forget to check in on our relationship and our feelings towards our partners. Not checking in over time can lead to that dreaded “how did we get here?” feeling, so just take a moment now, or at some point today, to ask yourself these three questions:
How do I feel with my partner? Are my emotional and physical needs being met? Is there anything we can improve upon?
If you can, write down your answers! It is always ok to talk to your partner about your feelings surrounding the relationship, and plans you may have together. In fact, checking in and setting goals as a couple will help build an even closer connection! Don’t be afraid to get curious – it is much better to ask yourself these questions often and honestly than it is to suddenly realize years down the line that you’re unhappy, and so far from where you want to be that you can’t even imagine getting back there. Checking in regularly will help keep you and your partner on track, and ensure that you’re both getting what you need out of the relationship. Remember: no matter how long you have been together or how close you may be, you are always allowed to ask for what you need!